When we learn something new for ourselves and, most likely, new to our friends, we always try to share this information with as many people as possible.
Especially if this “something” refers to issues of health and well-being. For me, such important information has recently become knowledge about HIV infection. Fortunately, only in theory. But nevertheless, this topic has strongly affected me and I decided that it is simply obliged to protect my relatives, friends and acquaintances. I talked with many people about how to get infected, destroyed the stereotypes that met every second person, recommended taking an HIV test, etc. There were different reactions – someone refused to talk about this at all, someone listened and even entered into discussions … But there were several reactions that made me think very hard and even get a little scared.
“You say that you can live with HIV, give birth to children. Then why so much panic to breed. Well, I get sick – I’ll just live with it, get treated. ”
These words sounded as easily as if we were talking about a cold or chickenpox. The man did not joke, did not doubt his words. He was sure that everything I heard from me does not require serious attitude, that no one day of his life needs rethinking. With the same success, he could tell me that no HIV exists and that he supports HIV-dissidents. But what is this? Protective reaction of the psyche, ignorance and unwillingness to know or misinterpret everything that is shown in the materials of social advertising, is written in blogs and told by HIV-positive people?
Why did I decide to write about this position? It’s simple – because such thoughts do not arise by chance, because such thoughts are dangerous and I would like to convince those who are also self-confident like my friend to be their column.
Yes, in the modern world, HIV-positive people actually live in less fear than their predecessors – they have the opportunity to be treated, create full-fledged families and, most importantly, they cease to be classified as “rogue society.” And of all the commercials of social advertising we are looking at enough and, to the best of our ability, happy people. And maybe at the moments of watching videos such thoughts are born. But it turns out that none of these “thinkers” think about what lies behind these happy faces. Yes, they have families, have a job and a future, but they also have a fear that HIV will develop into AIDS, they have a fear of catching co-existing diseases, they live with the threat of HIV transmission to a loved one. Their life, one way or another, is subject to a schedule in which one can not be late for a second with taking pills, you can not fail to follow the advice of a doctor, and in no case can a doctor’s admission be missed. And in order to become happy people and tell other HIV-positive people that “diagnosis is not a sentence,” all these people had to go through a difficult path, filled with tears of relatives from a misunderstanding of the situation, their own shock, acceptance of the situation and the restructuring of life under the new rules. Hence the logical question is: is disorderly behavior and unwillingness to follow one’s life worth living with HIV?
True, I have another question in connection with such precedents: what are the accents that need to be placed when informing the public? Is the method of successful work intimidating? Is it really only on pain of suffering and inevitable death that a person can begin to take care of himself? After all, no one turns the tongue to say such a thing about oncological diseases …
In fact, I very much hope that such positions are an exception, which, with a more thorough immersion in the explanations, will evaporate. I just understand that you can not intimidate – then we will lose people who still come to independently test their HIV status, those who are open to their loved ones and return to their usual life with their relatives. But how then should such information campaigns be built to cover all aspects of the problem? While for me this is an open question. If I find on it a one hundred percent answer, then I will write in the next column.
As for a friend who “bravely looks into the face of a possible disease,” I tried to do the most that depended on me – I gave food for thought. Whoever uses it is a matter for everyone … I hope that other people will not suffer from his decision.